"Transferability"

Last night we talked about transferability. A insisted that there was no need to look for that. We already have a perfect love that comes from God. Why mess with the real deal? Why seek to find the ephemeral and the tenuous type that fixates on satisfying one’s own wants and needs? The selfish sort. The sort that easily removes oneself from one and attaches itself readily and easily onto the next.

At first I was the firm defender of the beauty of eros love. And I protested that true eros love does exist and that God can and will make such love beautiful.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realize that such eros love just doesn’t hold out. For all the beautiful stories that we hear, how many more end in heartbreak. Or worse still, how many more end with an “I don’t love you anymore.”

How also does one lose that love so suddenly? How can one trust and rely and depend on this other being, knowing that there is a stark possibility of an “I don’t love you anymore” around the corner.

Every time a couple breaks up, this love they once professed is also easily separated and reattached so easily and so quickly onto the next subject. What about the feelings of the person you once loved? What does one do with all the past memories and feelings and all that love? Does it just disappear? Or does it get transferred onto and vested into the next person?

It all boils down to the selfish nature of man.

At this moment, I am reminded of 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

“Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things that last forever:
Faith, hope, and love;
But the greatest of them all is love.”